No Matter How You Feel

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“I love you no matter how you feel,” I tell her as she backs herself against the wall, panic in her eyes as her emotions overwhelm her. I’m familiar with that panicky feeling— not only because I’m currently walking alongside my second highly sensitive daughter through toddlerhood, but also because my toddler’s emotions mimic my …

Maybe You Can Forgive Yourself

I’d decided to meet a friend and her kids downtown at the Science Center even though the thought of just getting there aggravated my ever-present anxiety. In the 7.8 million person Asian metropolis where we lived at the time, our two best options for getting downtown were taxi and subway. I generally tried to steer …

My Body, Broken: A Kindred Mom Guest Post

“My body is broken, ruined.” This became the overwhelming thought of despair in my mind more than a few times in the weeks following the birth of my second daughter. After being miserable during the recovery of my first delivery, an unwanted c-section, I'd insisted on a VBAC for my second, hoping (expecting) the recovery …

What I hope to teach my girls (and why ‘not being rude’ will be low on the list)

I was telling my friend the other day about this scene from "Unbreakable Kimmy Schmidt," where one of the girls tells is abducted by a man who asked her to come out to his car with him. She doesn't want to be rude, so she goes. And is abducted.  Matt Lauer's cameo character comically (tragically) …